Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Dating 101

Lately a few fellow bloggers have been blogging about Dating and all the rules that entail this event. I found it rather interesting to hear from a man’s point of view as described by Michael Njldst (Rules of Engagement) and also from the feminine point of view from Giselle Khiangte (Dating Tips for Mizo Guys) So I decided I should write one myself from a more matured point of view (I’d like to believe I've been in the game longerJ) plus I have few points that I’d like to add to their already detailed write up.

  • If it’s a dinner date, dress appropriately! Look presentable, and smell good (so so important). This is not only for yourself but it’s a way of complimenting your date. It makes her feel important when you take time to dress up for the occasion. You may be an emo kid or a rap star for all she cares but if it’s a proper dinner date, look presentable. Trust me she will be impressed.
  • I really don’t care how far she stays, even if you don’t have a car, pick her up! Nothing sounds as cheap for a guy to say as “ok, I see you at the spot”. Remember your first date is not about you it’s about her, so make her feel special and taken care of. When you go to pick her up, don’t just sit in your car when she comes out of the house and blurt out “Hop in”, be a gentleman, get the fuck out, compliment her on how beautiful she looks, open the door for her and let her in.
  • It’s always a good idea to surprise a woman on your first date. How do you do that? Well a little bit of research will do the trick. Ask her friends what her favorite restaurant is, what her favorite food is, find out her favorite movie, book, you name it, find them all out. But when you do strike a conversation with her don’t bring all her favorites out first, give it a surprise entry. You constantly talking about her favorite everything will give you away in no time at all, so plan it well.
  • When she gets in the car she’ll probably ask you, "So, where are we going?" (time to pull out that smirk on your face) tell her “there’s this awesome little restaurant called …….(whatever her favorite restaurant’s name is) I know that serves really good Italian/Korean/ Japanese/ Indian (whatever her favorite is) food, and I think you'll love it”. You have successfully impressed her by 30%! Now it’s time for you to shut up and listen to things you already know like how it’s her favorite restaurant and about her first time there etc. etc.
  • Make sure you have made due reservations, nothing worse than waiting for a table outside all decked up. No, her second favorite restaurant wont do, so make due reservations.
  • At the table be polite, but confident not over confident. At one point or another a conversation about ex’s will come out, be smart and don’t go telling her about how you met and how the bitch fucked your life up with all the dramatic details. Be diplomatic about it, tell her she was a nice girl and that it just didn’t work out. She’ll see from the hurt in your eyes and figure things out for herself. And please don’t go Sherlock on her about her ex either, you’re there together because you’re both looking to move on.
  • Make sure you find a way to make her laugh, nothing breaks the uncomfortable first few minutes of a first date than a good laugh. And please don’t drink like your life depended on it, control your drinks.
  • Pay the Bill. She might want to chip in but you should pay the bill. If you have asked a girl out for a date, pay the bill. Maybe its just me but I think the guy should always pay the bill.
  • After dinner I suggest you take her for ice-cream and a short walk. And if she insists on paying for the ice-cream let her. Trust me, a short walk or stroll after dinner does wonders.
  • Don’t try to be a Romeo on the first date and be too frisky, maintain your composure, distance but most of all show her that you respect her, enjoyed yourself and thank her for the wonderful night, after you've dropped her.
  • Once you've reached home, don’t go texting her straight away. Wait for a while, give her time to recollect the night’s incidents, time to tell her friends about you and the date. And right before you hit the sack, text her saying how you had a wonderful time with her and wish her good night.
  • If she doesn't call you or text you in a weeks time, don't bombard her with texts and calls, move on. Just wank it off shes not interested. 

There you go dating 101. 


Anonymous said...

"please don’t go Sherlock on her" tihlai tak khi ka duh. Great tips.

Anonymous said...

great post, as always. seem like good good tips. might have come in useful a long time ago, when i was still in the game. though i didn't do too bad, in the end, i think ;)

zakk sangkima said...

@gkhiangte: most guys tend to do it, ive done it myself and it ended in a disaster. lol from experience

@ruolngulworld: i'm sure you didnt need my tips even back in the day. judging from your catch (wife) you seem to have had all the right moves :-)

Rohlupuii Pachuau said...

Smell good! Definitely important...seems u knw all da rite moves so go get urself a gf ...a real gf!! Great post btw!

zakk sangkima said...

@Rohluipuii Pachuau: I do know all the right moves lol. But I must say that I'm on a self imposed hiatus from relationships as of now, but who knows, when the time is right, I will find myself a real GF as you say hahahahaha.

Ruchika said...

Zakk!!! You make me laugh! (Umm, the good way.) I'm sure the ladies love that you pay the bill, lol! One thing though, there's something about "I'll meet you there" that I like. Maybe its a lot more romantic (or so) to be picked up, and specially in Jan, but I like the scene when the woman just walks up to the man where he is standing on the sidewalk and they smile. Too cute hey! One more, how could you ever forget! Don't be late. Neither of them, that's just buzzkill big time. But anyway, great post, do you specialise in the little jumpy romantic feelings? :)

zakk sangkima said...

@Ruchika: Hahaha thanks Ruchika, like i always say I'm a helpless and hapless romantic. lol. And for the Dont be late part, from my experience its always been the women who are late! ALWAYS grrrrrr.... and they call it fashionably late. And i do agree, dates are so much more romantic during winter, it adds to the whole emotion and scene of the romance.

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Anonymous said...

yes well written but i must say am still lucky to have her cuz i did nothing right almost...i can only say i just tried my bit...i hope she dint felt so bad.... i pissed her off but she told me after sometime not that day...that was my birthday...she bought a gift for me even when i asked her not to pay i will do it....